My current profile text on various sites

Minor variations on this text now appear under my ID on Informed Consent, FetLife and CollarMe.

In my personal approach to Dominance and sadism, I can be described (and often have been) as:

• Strict
• Sweet
• Caring
• Sadist
• Cruel
• Complex
• Attentive

I take all of these words to be compliments!

At the moment I am looking for a long-term relationship with a submissive woman (cis or trans) whose need/desire for submission extends beyond the bedroom and into other parts of the relationship as well, and goes beyond a sense of playing a role (roleplay scenes are fun, but I want the relationship to be more than that!)   I would probably describe this as more "slave" than "sub" but different people have different associations for those words and I won't be picky over what you want to call it!   This does mean that I want to meet someone compatible not just on a kink level but on a 'nilla level as well.

Some of my favourite things to do are baking (see the personal ad title!), music-making and writing (sci-fi/fantasy, and sometimes BDSM erotica).   I keep a blog at A Femanist View where I write about personal, political and other thoughts about life (which is why I don't comment much on IC any more).   I like a lot of different types of music, ranging from the silly to the epic and from folk to heavy metal.   I also read a lot and love learning new things.

Kinkwise, I'm pretty diverse: although I identify as orientationally "Dom" or "Master", I like to play with the submissive side of the ball as well, and no - I don't think that makes me a "switch", because my identity is Dom, switching is just something I play with (that is, I feel I never stop being a Dom, even if/when I play the role of sub for a little while).   I'm also not terribly fussy about gender.   Most kinks, I can get into, especially if I know my partner is also into them, and I am all but unshockable so if a potential partner wanted to try something, it's worth saying it however extreme or "out-there" it might seem.

Likewise, I'll not be shocked by any question anyone wanted to ask me (although I do reserve the right not to answer if I'm not comfortable with sharing that information yet) so feel free to memo me about whatever.